We find it hard to be kind to ourselves because, from years of conditioning, we've become our own harshest critics

We find it hard to be kind to ourselves because, from years of conditioning, we've become our own harshest critics—which only serves to increase our suffering and sadness. If we're plagued by negative judgments about ourselves, remember that the Buddha said the mind is soft and pliant. This means that you can transform it from critic to ally. Think of that cliché, "This is the first day of the rest of your life," and start with a blank slate in our mind. Begin to fill that slate with thoughts of kindness, benevolence, friendliness, and love for ourself. Repeat our phrases even if they don't feel genuine at first. They will work their magic anyway, transforming our heart and mind.